Figuring out a co-parenting relationship that works for you, your ex-spouse and your children is often one of the most challenging aspects of divorce. Co-parenting has many advantages for the children, but the logistics can be nightmarish.
One way that some divorcing families are coping with the process is by choosing “birdnesting” for their living arrangement. According to Psychology Today, birdnesting or just “nesting” is when the parents move in and out of a single domicile that the children do not move from.
How does nesting help?
Nesting flips the traditional custodial arrangement on its head. Rather than the children moving between Mom’s house and Dad’s house, they stay in one house and Mom and Dad do all of the moving.
This can be particularly beneficial at the beginning of a divorce. It is likely that you and your ex-spouse will want space from each other, but you also likely do not want to preemptively disrupt your children’s living situation. Nesting can allow you and your ex-spouse to have the space you need while giving you the time to make suitable next step arrangements.
Can we nest long-term?
There is usually nothing legally preventing a nesting situation from becoming long-term. This is more unusual since it is likely that both you and your ex-spouse will want to set up completely separate households at some point. However, in certain situations nesting has lasted for years.
Whether or not nesting is right for you depends on your particular situation. There are multiple ways to effectively co-parent, and thinking outside of the box can ensure the best for your family post-divorce.