Alabama parents like you prioritize your child’s well-being before all else. Unfortunately, if you and your co-parent are getting a divorce, you can run into a problem with that. After all, divorce itself is a life-changing and potentially traumatizing experience.

You may thus ask yourself if there is any way to break the news without doing harm. At the very least, you may want to mitigate the harm that you do. But is this possible?

Tailoring advice to fit your child’s needs

Psychology Today reminds parents that every child will react to news of divorce in a different way. This means you must be able to think on your feet and adjust your approach based on how your child reacts. You can incorporate knowledge you learn from friends or advice you pick up in help books or Q&A boards, but you know your child best. Thus, you should adjust your approach based on their age, personality and maturity level.

Cooperating with a co-parent

After that, the best thing you can do is work with your co-parent rather than against them. There is nothing more traumatic to a child than watching their parents argue with each other and get into fights openly. Do not hold discussions when you have been going at each other. Your child will pick up on the animosity between you.

Do not talk over each other, either. You can avoid this by rehearsing what you want to say before you have the conversation. Choose what information you will leave out and what you want to share. Do not argue, do not lie, do not deviate from the plan. This allows you to present a coherent front that your child can feel reassured by.